2016-09-05

Oh. My. God.


 There are things you learn with age, like the difference between
real tasting vs artificial tasting raspberry, strawberry and banana stuff.
For me, it's dating and men. You see, depending on where you are in life
you may find yourself dating, and in the modern age that means taking
to your computer, or more likely, your phone. And yes, to Tinder.

You've heard about it, you've wondered about it, and you've loathed it
even though you haven't tried it. Or you've secretly coveted it
even though you aren't single and you know it's pretty much shit.
I'm here to tell you: It's fucking confusing!

So; Oh my god, it's like googling 'men'. There are literally thousands
of single people out there. And with so many hits you can't be bothered to look
through their profiles, so you just go by their main photo - and so you have
officially become the most shallow person on this planet.

I can tell you right now, after only two hours on Tinder,
the 10 things men do wrong when they take/post pictures:

- They wear sunglasses
- They look bored
- They look angry
- They are turned away from the camera
- They enhance their beards (above all else)
- They try to look intimidating
- They try to look arrogant
- They use a picture of a celebrity
- They take pictures in public bathrooms
- They include pictures of groups (so you can't tell who's who)





28 kommentarer:

  1. The last time I was in the dating pool was before internet dating. It seems very intimidating to me. Good luck!

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    1. Thank you, I will need that. So far i haven't dared to meet anyone...

      Radera
  2. I think that Tinder might not be the right solution if your are a bit outside normality. Maybe you could try alternative dating databases? I only know German ones, but there will be Swedish ones as well, right?

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    1. I am signed up to two different dating apps, and the main one is called Badoo - but I have still to actually meet with anyone.

      Radera
  3. You know I met my husband online. And the process was efficient for me. I was very specific in my profile. So much so, that some guys called me racists, shallow, prejudiced against this or that... Like in face-to-face dating, the picture more often than not, what calls our attention. But it was their profiles, what it said about them (the writing, the tone...) which I focused on. If you take your time, it's usually a good way of meeting people you want to spent time with. But I will say it again: when it comes to internet dating, specificity and the ability to say no are very important. Like Debra said above, it can be intimidating. So you kind of have to keep that in mind all the time.

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    1. I have been internet dating since... well, since the Internet :) That's how I met my ex too. But I have to say, dating apps on your phone are very different. You are not at all encouraged to have a presentation, and what you share can only be short. Also, the whole forum is geared towards hooking up, based on where you are hanging out basically.

      Radera
  4. Haha herregud! De lär ju inte få många likes eller vad det nu heter på tinderspråk med såna bilder.

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    1. Jag vet faktiskt inte vad de tänker...

      Radera
  5. Oh, god...their beards? Why? :D
    Are you sure that Tinder is the right place to look for a date though? I've never tried dating sites, but I guess Magaly is right and the normal ones have a profile section where you find more detailed info about the person and from the style or phrases he uses to express himself you can learn a little more about him already...

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    1. I wish there was such an option, but like I replied to her comment - these apps really don't encourage a proper presentation, or words in general...

      Radera
  6. One of my friends was recently searching for a guy on Plenty of Fish. The photos aren't the only problems. A lot of men don't put a lot on their profile so you don't really get a sense of who they are except that maybe they are looking for a fling, which is an immediate turn off for someone looking for a long term relationship. I know a lot of people have a lot of success with online dating. I didn't, but that might have also been the venue I was using, lol. At the time it was Yahoo personals. But even with that said, it doesn't mean that you won't find someone amazing! I wish you the very best of luck!

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    1. In Sweden we are pretty up front about what we want, so most people on these apps are searching for straight up hook-ups, and by proximity... I am not too bothered though, I am focusing on other things in my life :)

      Radera
  7. Well good luck with Tinder - you're a brave soul. I would be scared shitless.

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    1. I created a fake FB account so I'm not out there with any of my actual info - also, I still haven't had a IRL date :)

      Radera
  8. Holy crap, woman! Run away! Perhaps groups near where you live or even groups online, that write or craft or read, will let you get to know people slowly. Even on FB, I've been shocked when someone who seemed normal for months all of a sudden ranted or trolled or admitted some frightening extremist view. You rarely know the "real" person online.

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    1. You are so sweet, but I have actually been internet dating for almost 20 years, so I'm not that freaked out :)

      Radera
  9. I would say only this - be careful when dating online. anyone can hide behind the picture. Overall I had a good experience of online meeting - met my hubby on FB :) hehe

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    1. I met my ex online too, so I know the ups as well as the downs - but thank you for worrying about me!

      Radera
  10. I am so glad not to be on the meat market anymore.

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Yes, you are lucky, in many regards :)

      Radera
  11. I wish you all the best my friend! Be truthful and look for truthful guys!!!
    I guess I am in dating mode too. I tried it on the internet, but I'm doing it the old fashion way now! I'm joining a gym on monday! LOL!
    Big Hugs!

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Thank you, dearest! We all go through different periods in life. Good luck to you too!

      Radera
  12. Oh my. Good luck. I have used dating sites before, but that was probably 14 years ago. I hope you find the perfect match.

    SvaraRadera
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    1. You are so sweet, but the cynic in me has a hard time believing in the perfect match :)

      Radera
  13. Oh gosh, Tinder! How very modern of you :) I think you're brave to try it and am wondering if you've met anyone from there or if you actually removed it from your phone after two hours. :D

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    1. I haven't met anyone yet, I am not in any rush to date and I am still getting over my previous relationship. Mostly I was curios - but of course I will keep you updated :)

      Radera
  14. Love the post title, by the way. Ha! :D

    SvaraRadera

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