2015-09-18

Exhaling grammar



I have been feeling completely overwhelmed lately.
Working in my store one week to going back to Uni
(after 12 years away) the next has been a huge change.
Every day I have been freaking out, crying and wondering
if I made the right choice. The main source of my anxiety?

GRAMMAR

If your recollection of school grammar goes something like:
Well, it's nouns and verbs and objects and stuff, right..?
let me illustrate what grammar looks like at University level:



 And this is a simple sentence.



Today I was sitting in Grammar class, feeling hopelessly lost
as I have done for three weeks now, when it dawned on me:
I don't actually have to take this class, and certainly not now.
I can audit the A-level and refresh my memory this semester,
and finish grammar in the spring instead! As soon as the thought
had popped into my head my pent-up anxiety began melting away.

I have been feeling like a miserable failure, even though
I am doing well with the rest at school. But going straight
to the Guidance office and voicing my plan (and getting
support for it) I already started regaining some balance.

Moral of the story: Know your limitations, ask for help,
seek new avenues, and - be kind to yourself.

 


 




30 kommentarer:

  1. Good for you! I'm stealing this as my new mantra "Know your limitations, ask for help,
    seek new avenues, and - be kind to yourself."

    I love a good diagramed sentence myself (as a trained English Educator with adolescent literature and second-language learners as specialties) but it IS NOT real life. I have never once diagramed a sentence to save a life nor have I gotten together with a group of friends to diagram ;) It's one of the hoops you must jump through in Higher Education. Get a book to practice this semester... Use it as a game... Take the class next semester when everything isn't so fresh, and rock your university experience! Hang in there!!!!

    SvaraRadera
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    1. I'm honored, use it freely!

      I was just telling my man about that last night; Since school (last time) I have developed my understanding of English, and come across instances, situations, articles when I have used or at least refreshed much of the knowledge I required back then - but NOT grammar. Grammar on University level is much too abstract to be used in daily life (unless you do it for a living :))

      Radera
  2. Good for you! No need to feel like a failure. Go at your own pace and enjoy!

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Thank you, PE! I was trying to find a blog tied to your Google+, but no..?

      Radera
  3. I find sentence diagrams to be very helpful when 1. learning a romance language, 2. grading papers and trying to explain to students why their sentence isn't a sentence, 3. editing my own papers. I went to a Catholic grammar school and that's all we did for much of my 8 years there. But Goth Gardener is right, it's not real life. AT ALL. Requirements stink, but that's all they are" requirements.

    Sending lots of love!

    SvaraRadera
    Svar
    1. And you should be very proud of yourself. Seriously. Knowing when to step back and get help is a sign of a VERY good student. I wish more students were like you and asked for help this early in the semester. It would save them and me a lot of pain.

      Radera
    2. #2 made me giggle.

      And, I'm with the Professor on this! Some of my students try too hard convincing themselves that they're doing fine so by the time they realize they need the help they feel like it's too late. (I have a sudden urge to diagram that last sentence :p )

      Radera
    3. Thank you, Franny! I do feel like I am being realistic and responsible about this decision, while the younger me probably wouldn't have been. I also feel like I have some responsibility to the faculty to have all my ducks in a row, since they let me come back after such a long time.

      Sharon, if I ever need a sentence diagrammed I will contact you! ;)

      Radera
  4. You did the right thing!!! You have some wonderful followers, Ms Misantropia! Great advice from knowledgeable people!!!

    SvaraRadera
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    1. I know, they are the best of the best <3 Thank you, Gail!

      Radera
  5. Either your part of the problem or your part of the solution.......choices = free will
    Problem solving is far more adventurous than dispair ....good job !
    Now it's Friday and the weekend is calling! xoDebi

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Thank you, Debi! I do feel like I'm (at least trying to) scratch things off a list long overdue, getting my ducks in a row. We'll see how long that lasts...

      Radera
  6. Grammar was always my Achilles heel too. Glad you are finding ways to banish your stress. You can do this!

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Thank you!
      I think grammar annoys me even more than it should because it looks a bit like math, and I always hated math - not because I wasn't good at it, but because it was ugly and boring (to me).

      Radera
  7. Well, thank goodness you dropped the class - for now ... I'd forever be wondering if you were critiquing my blog posts for improper grammer usage and spelling mistakes! lol Going back to school after an absense is hard enough. I'm glad you decided to leave it until next semezter. ;)

    SvaraRadera
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    1. :D I would never critique your grammar, Ms Insomniac - just your spelling! ;) Actually, I'm the one who worries about such things, not being a native speaker and having such (wonderful and) educated blog friends.

      Radera
  8. I never knew there were grammar diagrams! There are some in the French language though. I guess this could be helpful to me considering I pretty much self taught myself to read and write in English. I did most of my schooling in French!

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Oh, I never considered that you might be French-Canadian, but at a closer look I see that you live in Montreal!
      Yes, grammar diagrams apply to and exist in every language, but one rarely needs to consider them in real life. And one can certainly have a full understanding of a language without ever having to draw one.

      Radera
  9. I used to teach French grammar. Nobody likes grammar it seems.

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Oh really? As I wrote in a reply above, I was always so sensitive to the way grammar looked - like math :(

      Radera
  10. I don't know why you need to know so much about grammar anyway! I frequently forget noun, verb, etc, yet somehow I am able to put sentences together just fine! I guess if that is your area of study! Hang in there, you will be ok! Dropping the class sounds good!

    SvaraRadera
    Svar
    1. Yes, "unfortunately" I am taking English at a level where it's required :) It is also extra hard on this level, because they cram in B and C level grammar in the same course.

      Radera
  11. I am some glad your guidance counselor was there when you needed her/him.

    Waiting to take grammar class feels right. Get yourself acquainted with the madness, practice-practice-practice (I used to tell my students that, lol), and the mess will continue to look messy, but you'll understand it.

    I'm very jealous of your student status, just so you know. ♥

    SvaraRadera
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    1. ...as I am jealous of all of you who have already passed grammar on this level! :)

      All of the teachers and guidance counselors are very involved with the students on my level, it's really nice. There are not that many of us, I guess.

      Radera
  12. 'Be kind to yourself' this is a lesson that is much more important than grammar ;) Congrats on solving that anxiety problem, you are amazing returning to uni, I am in awe as there is no way (location, costs, smarts) I could tackle that, well done and yes, bit by bit you will get through it :)

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Thank you for your supporting words, Shelle! Ditching grammar took a load off, but yeah, I'm still overwhelmed by going back to school, how everything works. But there is no way I could do it if I didn't have some financial back-up, I totally get where you are coming from.

      Radera
  13. I recently had to take a grammar class... it wasn't fun. I am glad that you get to put yours off for a time. *Hugs* I am also glad that you can relax a little now too.

    SvaraRadera
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    1. Thank you, Hannah! I have been thinking and wondering about you and your escapades lately :)

      Radera

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