As many of you know my Cinnamon man is American
and we have been waiting forever to learn if he can stay in Sweden.
We met 2 ½ years ago when he came over to take care of his grand mother
who needed to be moved into a care facility. His parents were both born
in Sweden but they live in the States since 50 years, and he's an only child.
Since then we have gone back and forth with Migrations. Not only are all of his
relatives Swedes, but so are his best friends. He speaks Swedish and he wants
nothing more than to live and work here. 4 months ago his application was rejected
at the lower instance and we appealed to the Court of Migrations. Last week we called
and found out that a decision has been made and that we could expect a letter
in the mail any day. (But of course they wouldn't tell us what the verdict was...)
Today Cinnamon man called them again, and found out that they still haven't
sent the damn letter. You can imagine how frustrating it is. We have lived
together for almost 2 years now, never being able to make any plans
and Cinnamon man has not been allowed to work during that whole time.
And now they are just sitting on the damn thing!
Since we learned that the letter was on its way I have been in a state.
I have checked the mail box twice a day, my heart in my throat.
I have cried, read, baked, sewed, cried some more, had lots of wine.
I have asked Cinnamon man to call and double check that the letter
isn't lost in the mail. I have searched on-line for tips on how to manage
a long distance relationship. I have fantasized about a positive answer
and us celebrating the happy news with friends and family.
I'm basically going out of my mind.
Since some of you have reacted to or asked about how come
Cinnamon man has been rejected even though so many things are in his favor,
I thought I'd again share a little bit more information about our process:
The law says that one has to apply for a Swedish residence permit
from one's home country. So by law Cinnamon man has to go back to
the States to apply from there, which can take up to 8 months. In certain cases
you can get an exception from that rule and apply while you are staying
in Sweden on a temporary visa, and this is what we have asked for.
But those exceptions usually involve children, pregnancies, illnesses etc.
In Sweden, being married and living together are considered the same
in the eyes of the law. We were actually discouraged by a lawyer from getting
married in the middle of this process, since that might look suspicious.